NYC Boudoir Photographer | Don’t Worry… I am Fearless!
A few months ago I received a Facebook message from a photografriend of mine. She told me that one of her previous bridal clients had a boudoir shoot booked with a pin-up photographer. This client asked my friend if she had any tips to calm her nerves and help her prepare. So my friend asked me if I had a blog post she could point her client to. One that spoke about confidence and shaking those pesky nerves.
She was surprised when I said I didn’t. “Why not?”, she asked!!
I explained to her that it is very simple. When my clients come and see me, I don’t mind that they have nerves. In fact, they SHOULD have butterflies. They are doing something daring and out of their comfort zone. I love that. Taking chances is how we learn and grow. It’s an opportunity for change. It’s exciting!! I can’t think of any time in my life I have done something exciting and not felt nerves.
On the flip side, when a client comes to see me, I am not nervous. I am the fearless one in the relationship with my client. I allow them the opportunity to be nervous because I am not. It doesn’t make a difference if they have a few pounds to lose, stretch marks, blemishes, scars, thinning hair, muffin tops or anything else you can think of.
I am not scared of any of it. Nothing a client can bring me will be a hurdle for me to show them their true beauty and worth. It will not stop me from allowing them to escape these plagues that they carry around like a load of bricks every day.
It is my hope that after I am fearless and take a stand for my client that she will no longer be plagued by her imperfections, but accepting of them as her own. She will recognize that she is absolutely feminine and powerful not just in spite of the imperfections, but also because of them.
I ask my clients to walk in and be daring, and in turn my promise is to be fearless. When my clients leave, they often feel more fearless, and in turn it makes me more daring.
What a beautiful relationship.