NYC Boudoir Photographer | Fat Like You.

First, I really want to take a heartfelt moment and thank all the amazing people who commented on my last blog post and those who messaged me privately. Your support was overwhelming and beautiful. What I was most taken with, was how many of you feel the same way and are struggling with the same inner dialogues. For those people, I want to say you are not alone…and we are in it together.

There was one comment made that I want to address more specifically. I knew it was coming, after all it always does. I know it was meant as a compliment…and I do appreciate that very much.

“If it means anything, I wish I was fat like you Jen.”

I get it. I really do. I know by all relative terms I am not obese and even though I think I have a few pounds to shed, there are a lot of people who would want to be in my shoes.


My post was not about the scale. In fact, I am not even weighing myself these days. It’s NOT about the scale. It’s not physical – it’s emotional.

Yes, maybe in my emotional journey I need to change my physical activity and that in turn might change my physical appearance, but that is not the solution to the problem. The solution is to love me no matter what. No matter how tight my clothes are, or what the scale has to say. It’s about knowing my power and living it. Not being a slave to societies ideas of perfection.

Recently I interacted with a woman on Facebook who was struggling to lose weight. She confessed to me that she thinks thin people are mean and they are all judging her. I spent some time explaining to her that I have actually been following her stories and her progress simply because I relate to the emotions of her journey through change. That even though she might think I am mean – really I am just like her.

No, I am not fat…but that doesn’t change how I feel inside. It’s the insides that need the work.



3 Replies to “NYC Boudoir Photographer | Fat Like You.”

  1. its really so true. I remember when I was my thinnest wondering why I wasn’t so happy. I look back at photos of me at that time and think wow I looked awesome how did I not even realize it then? the whole concept is so strange and confusing. Love these posts, can’t wait to hear updates. xoxo

  2. I gained about 90 pounds over the past 20 years, 50 or so since I had a brain bleed, back injury, shoulder injury and was diagnosed with myofascial pain syndrome and fibromyalgia. I hate the way I look! I am embarrassed to leave the house (which sucks for a photographer) my husband loves me so much but I really have to loose the weight!

  3. It is hard when people essentially judge you for not feeling good about yourself when you are physically thinner than they are. I want to shout it from a rooftop that it isn’t about what the other person sees when they look at me, it is about how I feel when I look at me. Exactly like you said, it is emotional…what’s going on in the inside. I understand what that person was trying to say when they made the comment but I a so glad you came back to say a few words about it. xoxo.

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